Getting to Know You Questions for Couples
Not every couple needs to start deep. These questions are for the early stretch of a relationship, or for a long one that wants to go back to basics for an evening — favourite comfort food, a hidden talent, what you wanted to be as a kid. Nothing here needs bravery, just a bit of honesty.
They work the same way as every question deck: you each write your answer privately, and once you're both finished, you see the full set together, side by side.
Two decks make up this page. Icebreakers is the general version — hobbies, habits, small preferences — good for any stage of a relationship when you want something easy. Valentine's is love-story specific: when you first knew, what made you fall, what you'd write on a card today. Use whichever fits the mood.
Neither deck asks you to perform or impress. The questions are plain on purpose, which is exactly why they work — a straightforward answer to "what's your hidden talent" tends to reveal more, and more naturally, than a question trying hard to be profound.
Sample Cards
- What's your go-to comfort food?
- What's the best trip you've ever taken?
- What's a skill you wish you had?
- Which song have you played the most this year?
- What's your favourite way to spend a Sunday?
- What did you want to be when you were little?
- What's your hidden talent?
- What's the best gift you've ever received?
- What's a movie you can watch again and again?
- Who's your celebrity crush?
- What's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
- What's your favourite festival, and why?
- If you could live anywhere for a year, where would it be?
- What always makes you laugh?
- What's a small luxury you love?
- When did you first know you loved me?
- What's your favourite memory of us?
- What made you fall for me?
- What's the most romantic thing I've done for you?
- Which song is our love story?
- What's your favourite thing about our relationship?
- What little thing do I do that makes you smile?
- Describe our love in three words.
- What would you write on a card to me today?
- What's your dream Valentine's Day with me?
- What do you love about the way I look at you?
- Which moment of ours do you wish you could freeze?
- How have we grown since we met?
- What would you never want to change about us?
- What does being in love with me feel like?
How to Play
- 1Answer each question honestly and in your own words.
- 2Wait for your partner to finish their own answers.
- 3Once you're both done, read through every question with both answers shown together.
- 4Talk about whichever answers you didn't already know.
Tips
- This is a good deck for a first "just the two of us" evening together, or for re-introducing yourselves after a stretch of being busy.
- Answer quickly rather than overthinking — these are meant to be easy, not an essay.
- Use it to learn something small you genuinely didn't know, even in a long relationship — everyone has at least one.
- Follow it with a game like This or That if you want to keep the light mood going.
- Save the Valentine's deck for an actual anniversary or Valentine's Day, rather than using it up on an ordinary Tuesday — it reads better with a bit of occasion behind it.
- If you're newly dating, Icebreakers is the better starting point. Save Valentine's for once there's an actual love story to look back on.
Questions People Ask
Is this for new couples only?
It's a good starting point for new couples, but plenty of long-together couples use it too, just for something easy and fun.
How long does it take?
A few minutes each — short, specific questions with quick answers.
What if we already know most of the answers?
You'll probably still find one or two surprises, and even the ones you already know are a nice, low-effort way to spend time together.
What's actually in the Valentine's deck?
Questions about your relationship's own story specifically — when you first knew you loved each other, your favourite memory, what you'd write on a card today.
Is this a good deck for an anniversary?
Yes — the Valentine's deck in particular is built for exactly that kind of occasion, as a way to look back together rather than just celebrate with a dinner out.
Can we use this to introduce a partner to our relationship history?
It works well for that too — going through the Valentine's questions together is a nice way to put your shared story into words, even if you both already lived it.
Can we do just a few questions instead of the whole deck?
Yes — there's no rule that says you need to finish it in one sitting. Answer a handful now and come back to the rest another time.
Is there anything to prepare beforehand?
No — just open the deck and start answering whenever you're both ready.
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Answers are revealed together, your scores carry across sessions, and everything here stays private to the two of you.
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